Should You Pay For Your Kids To Go To Private School?

When it comes to achieving financial stability, most will agree it can’t be obtained without investing. We invest in our future through various retirement accounts, and many choose to invest in their children’s future through college savings such as 529 plans. There are varying opinions on if and when parents should pay for college for their children, and if so…how much. But what about the pre-college years…before our children are able to work and financially contribute? Should parents pay for private school?

Before you read any further, let me warn you that I don’t plan to provide a “one size fits all” answer because there isn’t one. Instead, I’m going to present facts, scenarios, alternatives, and priorities to you can use to make sure your child gets the best education possible.

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should you pay for private school?

2013 Private vs Public School Facts

  • Approximately 10% of all U.S. students attend private school Pre-K-12
  • Out of families that make over $75,000; 85% send their children to public school

*The cost of non-sectarian secondary private school tuition is more than the average cost of tuition at a 4-year college. That amount is $22,261 (source)

Why Consider Private School?

Most choose to pay for private school because they generally perform better than their public school counterparts. Some parents feel it is a safer alternative, and others feel they are able to form a stronger bond with teachers. Most that choose to attend private schools are religiously affiliated. This could be because these schools align with their own personal belief system. However, after reviewing the tuition costs, I’m sure finances are a major factor when considering the type of private school.

Is Private School For You?

Ask yourself these questions to determine if private schooling is the right decision for your family.

Why are you considering private school?
Putting little Susie is private school to keep up with the Jones’ just isn’t a good reason in this financial climate. But if your concern is based on values, education, safety or other factors, you owe it to yourself to investigate further.

How do the public schools fare in your district?
Statistically speaking, private schools fare better academically than public schools. But there are quite a few hidden gems out there. For example, my high school was ranked #4 in the U.S. a few years ago, and consistently ranked #1 in its state. This school had a private school education with a public school price tag!

If you are fortunate enough to live in a neighborhood with a thriving school district, take advantage of it! Alternatively, if your district is at the other end of the spectrum, private school may be a viable alternative. Last year a Midwest school district lost their accreditation and became the first school system under direct state oversight. Families had the difficult decision to keep their children in an unaccredited school or let them be displaced and bussed to a neighboring district. Unfortunately, the students are not excelling because they are being tossed around due to circumstances that are not their fault.

Will my child excel?
If you have an older child, you already have an idea of what type of learner they are and what type of environment will help them excel academically. Would you rather your child be an A student in a public school or a C student in a private school? The rigorous academic standards placed by some institutions aren’t meant for every child. Alternatively, many public schools offer advanced placement and/or enrichment classes for those students who are looking for more of a challenge.

Can I Afford It?

Probably the biggest consideration when considering private school is rather or not you can afford it.

  • Do you have an emergency savings fund?
  • How secure is your job / source of income?
  • Is financial aid or scholarships available?
  • Are you planning for retirement?

Just like college, I don’t believe parents should pay for their children’s education until their future years are secured. If you cannot afford to invest in an employer retirement plan (401K or TSP), or some sort of Individual Retirement Account (IRA), then you cannot afford private school tuition. Ideally, you would max your retirement savings first, but even if you can’t contribute the allowed maximum, contribute something to retirement before considering private school tuition.

Some private schools offer financial aid. Before I was accepted to my high school, I applied for private school (for the wrong reason — my best friend was going there). The tuition was the same as what I would eventually pay for college. I was eligible for need-based financial aid, but there was still a generous portion we would have been responsible for.

Evaluate the security of your job. Last year, the government shutdown and those that had what are considered some of the most stable jobs in the country (government employees) were indefinitely furloughed. For the non-Department of Defense employees, that lasted 17 days. Eventually, they were all granted back-pay, but that was a time of great uncertainty. It would be a shame to start private school and not be able to finish it. Which brings me to my last point…

– A healthy emergency fund can help offset job uncertainty. An e-fund should not be used as a standard means to pay tuition, but if an unexpected job loss occurs, a 3-6 month funded emergency fund would be there to help until things return to normal.


If you’ve determined that you cannot afford private school, you do have some alternatives:

My Conclusion

Personally, I am considering private Christian education for my son. We have a school at my church that promotes early reading and math skills. I’ve seen firsthand the academic achievements of these students, as well as monitored their transition to high school. I am fortunate, because the schools I am considering fall well below the statistical average for Religious private school tuition.

Also, since my 3-year plan involves buying a bigger house, we plan to move closer to the private academy we have our eyes on and move to one of the top rated school districts in the area. This will give our future home great resale value and, should we decide private school is not for us, there will be top rated public schools we can transition to.

I Would love to hear from you ~

What is your opinion or private & public schools?
Have you or would you pay for your child to go to private school?
Have you ever moved, or would you consider moving, to be in a better public school district?
Was schools a major factor when renting/buying a home or apartment?

MomCents is a 30-something Christian, wife, and mother of a 2-year old son who is jumping back into the wonderful world of blogging with her attempt to create a PF/Mom Blog. If you’re looking for expert advice, she advises you to stay away! But, if you want to follow the up, downs, twists, and turns of a real person who will make mistakes along the way…stop on by. Hopefully you’ll find a laugh, encouragement, or both! Find MomCents on Twitter & Facebook

Last Edited: 2nd July 2014

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  1. says

    I have been a public school teacher for 5 years. I must admit there are advantages to private schools. You may still have problems but you will certainly avoid some of the riff Raff that public schools have to deal with.

  2. says

    Davey ~ thanks for leaving your perspective as a teacher.
    Also, THANK YOU for being a teacher. I believe teachers (public and private) are undervalued and underappreciated. Without you all…there would be no doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc.

    You are correct, no school is perfect.

  3. says

    We actually have a great private school system but we have a daughter who is autistic that the school just was not doing what was needed. We pulled her out of school at the midway mark just this last year and it has been an amazing experience for her. She was in 5th grade and in the half year left she completed all the requirements for 5th, 6th, and half of seventh grade. It has made us question pulling our other children out of school. I know homeschooling is not an option for most people, but if you can do it you will bond so much more with your children and you will be able to cater their education to exactly what they need.

    • says

      I was homeschooled for a while when growing up, and I can tell you that I learned more in those years than I probably did any others years combined. Something to be said for one on one attention from someone who cares!

    • says

      I don’t know much about homeschooling – but I think its a great option for those that can do it. The ACE curriculum (Accelerated Christian Education) is what one of the schools I’m considering uses…its designed to be used in a home school environment or a Christian school.

  4. Brad says

    I am starting my 12 year daughter in a private Christian school in lates summer. She has adhd, that makes her distracted a lot in school, also bullied a lot. I just know we had to change. Teachers , many just don’t notice bulling as much as we want…

    • says

      My younger sister was diagnosed with adhd which made school difficult…even though she is very smart and eventually graduated from college. I hope the Christian private school you are enrolling her in can provide an environment where she can learn and thrive!

    • says

      Thanks ~ I can’t take credit for the research though…but it really was an eye opener for me. I didn’t realize how much more expensive independent private schools are from those that are religious-affiliated.

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