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The Downside Of Facebook: Facebook Envy

By Melissa 4 Comments - The content of this website often contains affiliate links and I may be compensated if you buy through those links (at no cost to you!). Learn more about how we make money. Last edited November 4, 2011.

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Facebook is a great tool to keep up with family and friends, share pictures of your kids, ask for advice, keep others posted about what is happening in your life and learn what is happening in other people’s lives.  I have some friends from college that I don’t talk to regularly, but I know what is happening in their lives through Facebook, so when I do have a chance to reconnect with them on the phone, it makes reconnecting easier.

Since its inception in 2006, Facebook users in the U.S. have grown to 116,010,760, or more than one third of the U.S. population of 309,003,000 according to Mashable Social Media.

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Facebook: An Overly Positive Look At People’s Lives?

While Facebook has many positive aspects, there are also downsides, one of them being Facebook envy, a new phenomenon that leads to Facebook users feeling depressed or unhappy with their lives when they compare their own life to their friends and acquaintances’ lives as documented on Facebook.  I learned about this early on.

I have a friend who lives several states away.  I know that she has trouble with her husband; he works hard at his job, but when he is home, he often goes upstairs and spends hours on the computer.  She misses spending time with him, as do her children.  However, if I didn’t know her better, I might be envious of her life because when she posts on Facebook, she only writes about the positives in her life, and I even venture to say she makes things look more positive than they really are.

Early Show technology expert Katie Linendoll states, “Most of us tend to play up the positive aspects of our lives while excluding the negative. The result is that a Facebook profile never tells the whole story. And we end up comparing ourselves to a one-dimensional version of someone else’s life.”  Because I know my friend so well, I know her life is not necessarily the ways she chooses to portray it on Facebook.  Armed with this knowledge, I read all of my acquaintances’ posts with a bit of healthy skepticism.

Facebook Can Lead To Keeping Up With The Joneses

In addition to believing others have better relationships than you do, you may believe others have more fun and more money than you.  In short, Facebook has become yet another way to compare yourself to others.  It has become an electronic view into the lives of others that makes you want to keep up with the Joneses.

Psychologist Dr. David Swanson told CBS News, “What you put on display is how great your life is — the cars you drive, the vacations you go on. Nobody’s life is that perfect and so, whenever you start to compare your life to those images, you’re going to be depressed, because you’re going to feel like your life is lacking.”

If we are not careful, Facebook can lead us to spend more money, either to keep up with what are friends are doing or because we are depressed that we can’t keep up with what our friends are doing.  The simple fact is that we almost never know exactly what is going on with other people.  We don’t see behind closed doors; we don’t know exactly what their relationships are like.  We don’t know if they have debt; we don’t know of their financial struggles.  Perhaps instead of comparing ourselves to others, we should see Facebook for what it truly is—a great way to keep in touch with family and friends, and a way for our friends to reveal the way they wish their lives were, not necessarily the way they actually are.

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Melissa, a mom to three (ages 15, 10, and 9), blogs at Mom's Plans where she writes about homeschooling, health eating, frugal living, and paying down debt. She works as a freelance writer and virtual assistant.

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  1. Eric J. Nisall says

    I don’t buy into all that psychbable. To me, this guy is just giving people yet another excuse to not be accountable for their own financial shortcomings: “Well, you see, um, I only bought all this stuff because my friends on Facebook were doing it and I wanted to impress the people I haven’t seen in a while.” It’s a load of crap and people need to stop blaming the system or the tools and look within themselves.

    And to be honest, I see more posts about negative stuff than the “life is grand” stuff people claim is floating around the site. So much so in fact, that people are posting more things like “Face your issues, don’t ‘Facebook’ them”. Just something I noticed and i may only be in my own circles.

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  2. PKamp3 says

    It’s just a high tech way to keep up with the Joneses… really no different from seeing what car is parked outside of someone’s house or how often they leave at night (and what time they come back from parties). You don’t see their money issues or their arguments happening inside the house, just the happy front they present on the outside. I don’t think Facebook started the problem, it’s just the latest excuse.

    And to follow up Eric, I do see a lot of whining in Facebook messages, and more often than not it’s from someone who has whined before.

    I barely touch my personal Facebook page – really only to respond to wall posts, messages, and the occasional snarky remark… but I have done something like 4 status messages in the last year and 3 were related to my wedding.

    Thanks for the article, makes you think!

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  3. Lindsey says

    Oh this is so very true! I think people can go to the opposite end of making their life look better and post every detail about their life which is normally TMI.

    I think you need to keep a good balance. A form a reality. But don’t expect anyone else too. Someone else’s life will always look better on Facebook.

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  4. Trillbane says

    I don’t actually say much on Facebook about my personal life for this very reason. I’ll share links, post a few pictures for faraway family to see, make the occasional comment about a current event, cheer for my favorite sports teams, etc. but I never whine about anything there nor do I post anything that could be construed as bragging (my girlfriend is so awesome!, The new Mercedes I just got is fantastic!, Etc.). However there are a few people in my friends list that do whine or others that constantly make public posts of affection to their significant other (I love you !, You are my world and you are what makes life worth living which is why I love you so much !, Etc.). I’m not exactly sure why these people post such things, especially because these are the types of things nobody really wants to see and are better left to be dealt with face-to-face. It’s especially odd considering I actually know and am occasionally around the people that do this and know they have severe communication issues with their significant other. I guess since they can’t talk to each other face-to-face they have to do it on Facebook where everybody can see. Can anybody explain this to me or am I missing something here?

    In any case I think Facebook is a great tool but like any tool they can be misused.

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