My husband shares with his family and I hate it. They look down on us b/c of what he shares. Nothing he does will ever be good enough. I don’t think he handles the money well either and when he is with them he is seeking validation of his financial maneuvers.

I don’t know if he gets any good advice from them all I know is they don’t seem to think we are capable of making it on our own and they are very snotty and would delight (at least his mother) in our stumbling financially. I do not want help from them. My husband did that in the past and he still has not paid them back. He disappoints me b/c of this. We’ve had several times he could have paid them back and he didn’t.

So, his sharing information with them no doubt makes them wonder why he has not repaid them and disgusts his mother and makes me not proud of him.

It’s in poor taste to share financial information with your parents if your spouse does not consent. In our situation there is no reason for him to give all the details he has given them. He tells them how much in his 401K, how much debt he’s paid off, how much our trips costs, how much he makes, etc. Isn’t it enough to say “I am making a good living, but I’m still working out a few things, but I will be okay”?